What does taking 100% responsibility for your life look like?
If any part of your life is not living up to what you want it to be, you can change it. If you see a problem, tackle it. Remember you must RESPECT yourself enough to take ownership of the problem. Do not take the easy and common way of avoiding responsibility by blaming others for your problems.
STORY EXAMPLE: When the workplace training you are receiving is subpar, do you passively struggle by telling yourself, “It is not my fault, they don’t know how to train”? Or do you communicate the struggle you’re having with the trainers and advocate for a change?
Granted, addressing issues with your trainer can feel scary. Most people dislike confronting problems, especially with authority figures because it might lead to heated and opinionated discussions. It might even feel combative, with pointing fingers, or immature behavior.
It’s good to step outside of your subjective emotional frustrations and get objective. Stick to these points as much as possible.
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- What is at the root of the problem? It will help if you can demonstrate the issue.
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- What do I need that I am not getting? In this example, it could be a lack of documentation, lack of clarity for roles and responsibilities, differences in learning styles, or even personality issues.
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- How can we implement improvements?
Unfortunately, there are times when a resolution cannot be agreed upon. That doesn’t mean you have to put up with the problem. You can move to a new decision point such as exiting the role, position, or employment with that company altogether. It might be better to leave a bad situation knowing you exhausted all avenues to fix the problems instead of remaining and compensating for others or coping as best you can with the bad. Letting go after giving your best problem-solving ideas a try does not mean you failed. It simply means that the situation couldn’t be resolved by the people involved.
The upside is you now have an experience that you can take into your future and use to be more proactive at assessing your next role, position, or employer to see if they will match your expectations. You have freedom now. No one can take away your ability to act and make a better life for yourself.
If you find yourself experiencing life challenges like this often, I encourage you to begin journaling to get your emotions out first, then move into a space of objectivity. Begin with listing factual details that will support both sides of the argument, yours and theirs. Arguing their side before you address the situation shows that you are prepared to be fair and as impartial as you possibly can be. This helps to open the lines of communication and diffuse any tension that might arise from differences in experiences, opinions, and recollections.
I also encourage you to look into joining communities like the Creatively Cultivating Consciousness community as we share and discuss situations like these to deepen your self-awareness and strategies for taking 100% responsibility for the challenges you experience along your life journey.
When ready perhaps you will join me and others in honoring your pledge to self by creating a page in your journal that is dedicated to your commitment to be 100% responsible for your life.
Email me or watch the video below for the details.
Sending you love and light – Kami
